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A man's heart plans his way, But the LORD directs his steps. Ps. 16:9

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Bill's story...

I have known for a long time that I need to do something about my health.  But like most people, I suspect, I didn't know where to begin, so I did nothing.   As my hip got worse and worse, I was compelled to figure out a way to begin.

Back in early April, after a bar-b-que of all things, a dear brother confronted me about my health.  His words stung my pride, yet I knew all of it to be true.  We had heard that others had had some success with a "soup diet", (no, not the cabbage soup diet) and after the confrontation, I asked Debby to get the ingredients and make it. 

I started the diet on April 19th, and my weight that morning was 298.4 lbs.  The first week I lost 11.2 lbs.  I was so encouraged that I decided to try the diet again for another 7 days.  This time however, I only lost 3.4 lbs.  That "diet" ended.  I pretty much went back to our normal eating habits, but this time, oddly enough, I did not gain it back.  I managed to maintain it, but I was not satisfied with my weight.

When I got home from work on Tuesday, July 5th, Debby said she had a documentary she thought we should watch.  It's called "Fat, Sick, and Nearly Dead".  We did watch it, and ordered our juicer that night.  I knew that I could do this.  I knew that this would be a healthy way to lose more weight and jump start a healthy lifestyle.  And I hoped that losing the weight would take care of my hip issue, allowing me to begin some physical exercise.

Well, after 2 1/2 weeks of the fast and 13.4 lbs lost, my hip was NOT getting better.  I FINALLY listened to my wife :) and went to a chiroptactor.  After x-rays and a consult, the diagnosis is that I have some calcification on some vertabraes, and a pinched sciatica and another nerve.  That's the bad news.   The good news is that I am not beyond repair.  I'm going for adjustments 3 times a week for now.  I call it my "pretzel time".  It hurts alot, but I am starting to already regain some mobility.

As far as weight loss from juicing, as of this morning, day 27, I have lost 22.2 lbs, for a total of 38.6 lbs since April 19th.  I'm feeling pretty good, although still limping quite heavily.  That will change.  Please pray that I will be consistent with my stretches and exercises. 

My dream is to run along the beach like Matt Damon in "Bourne Supremacy".  I'll get there.

Monday, July 18, 2011

The Honeymoon Is OVER!!

I can see how Esau sold his birthright for a pot of stew.   It's how I felt this past weekend.  The 2 kids that are still at home, were at Bill's parents for 2 nights, and Bill had to work Saturday, so I was home alone.  I know the Bible says that it is not good for man to be alone, but I'm pretty sure it applies to a woman as well. 

ALL I did was think about what I couldn't have, and it almost sent me over the edge.  I didn't have any of the stuff I was craving, griping and complaining about, but the thoughts in my head made me crazy! 

Along with the juice fast, I (Debby) am starting to go through a book called "Made to Crave" by Lysa TerKeurst.  I know that my overweight issues are not really about food.  I have known that I'm an emotional eater.  I've been doing it since I was 12 when my dad died.  I also know that it will take a lot of work to peel back the layers of pain that are buried down deep inside.  And I realized the first layer this past weekend.

I want FOOD.  I want it more than engaging with my husband, (unless we are engaging over food), I want it more than working for a clean house, and I want it more than a REAL relationship with Jesus.  That is the honest truth.  I wanted food this past weekend more than the desire to pray for deliverance from the cravings. 

Which leads me to a confession.  Last week, I would "cheat" with a few grapes,  or maybe a plum.  Then I was doing it everyday, and then multiple times a day.  How is it cheating if I'm eating fruit you ask?  Good question.  It's cheating because I made a commitment to juice with Bill for 30 days, and I have broken that commitment.  I cheated not only on myself, but also on Bill. 

So, here I am again.  Admitting failure, but recommitting myself to the juice fast with Bill, for the time remaining.  I need so much prayer for strength.  I am so weak emotionally and spiritually.  But we know that God is so strong.  He WILL give the strength needed to complete the fast.

Friday, July 15, 2011

We are still alive...

So, we have now finished one full week of juicing.  7 days.  First, the stats that everyone wants to know.  As of this morning, Bill weighs 273 lbs, and I weigh 266.  That means we have both lost 9 pounds in 7 days. 

Let me first say that this is NOT a quick fix.  If you are looking at this as a possible way to lose weight fast, you are looking at it for the wrong reason.  Even though we have lost weight quick, we are not looking at this as a temporary fix.  Not only are we committed to doing the juice fast for 30 days, we are MORE committed to changing our lifestyle.  We want that more that just weight loss.  Changing our lifestyle is the part we need the most encouragement with.

Last week Thursday evening was our first taste of a juice, and we officially began last week Friday morning.  We also left that morning for the weekend in Merritt Island.  We packed up our juicer and a cooler full of fruit and veggies, and made our way east.  We were on our way to see our boys commission from Teen Missions International's (TMI) 10-day boot camp.  They both did well, and are busy serving the Lord in Scotland right now.  Here is a link for an update. http://www.teenmissions.org/2011/07/15/scotland-pt-update-11074/
We were also privileged to see the final launch of the space shuttle program.    It was a great weekend, except...

Saturday night, Bill had taken a bus with 2 teams to the Miami airport.  The teams always leave things on the bus, and Bill brought those items home.  Why, I'm not sure.  He brought Crunch 'n Munch, Pringles Cheddar cheese, and some other random candy and cracker items.  SERIOUSLY???  After 2 full days on the fast, I admit, I caved.  I'm not a huge fan of Pringles, and even less of a fan of cheddar cheese flavor, but for some reason, I could not resist.  So, I allowed us to have the portion size, which is only 16 chips.  Notice that Bill did not have any.  Bronia, Simon, Ethan, and I all had our portion size.  However, I felt sick to my stomach almost immediately.  That was it for cheating for the day.  The next day I had 4 chips, and have not cheated in that way since.

I have cheated in the sense that I ate an avacado, and have popped some fresh bing cherries in my mouth from time to time.  I just miss the action of chewing.  Other than that, it really is just the juice.  Many have already asked and I'll answer for those who are wondering.  For the most part, I do not feel hunger.  I feel a need to chew/eat, only for the sake of doing it.  Not because I'm hungry.  We have both been surprised by that.  Even our kids have said they don't feel hunger by just juicing.  The kids are back to eating, but their diet has drastically changed.  We hope to make those changes permanent.

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

LAZY, FAT & SICK

So, Bill and I have made quite a decision about our health, and we want to blog about it.  When I first asked Bill if I could blog it, he asked me why.  One, I said for accountability.  Through weekly updates, if people know what we are wanting to do, they will (we hope) encourage us and hold us accountable.  We know the verses about our body being a temple.  I Cor. 6:19,20 says, "Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God?  You are not your own, for you were bought with a price.  So glorify God in your body."  We have not done that.

And secondly, so we can share this with others.  For all the information that is out there, we are SO ignorant about our bodies and  health.  Bill and I have been informed for a long time, but have just chosen not to do much about it.  James 4:17 says, "So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.  That is the LAZY.

When we got married, Bill was about 210 lbs, and I was somewhere around 190lbs.  We didn't really keep track because we were both quite active, in love and newly married, and not worried about our weight.

Well, like most Americans, we moved further into life, with me having babies, and Bill working in a quick service restaurant.  Needless to say, the pounds have added up over our 15+ year marriage.  Here is the truth folks.  Bill weighs 282, and I weigh 275.  That is the FAT.

For the last 18 months or so, for those who have seen Bill, have noticed that he's been walking with a limp.  A year or so before that, he had quite a serious slip-and-fall at work.  He had gotten some physical therapy at the time, but a while after that ended, the limp appeared.  It's in his hip.  He is in almost constant pain, yet suffers silently and without complaint.  What has made it so much worse he thinks, is his gut.  His being overweight is contributing to the pain.

I also have been having chest pain from time to time. When I bend over to pick something up, I will get a sharp pain in my chest when I get back up again, as well as sometimes getting light-headed.  I've also seen an increase in adult acne.  Not cool.  We are 37 and 38 respectively, and should not be in this much pain.  That is the SICK.

Last night, on NETFLIX, we watched a documentary called, "Fat, Sick, and Nearly Dead".  We encourage everyone to watch that.  We are about to embark on a similar journey.  We are going raw. The kids included.  We have decided to do a 30-day juice fast, with the kids maybe doing it for a week initially, and continue on in a modified fashion after that.  We have to.

This last year that we are here in Florida, before we go off to missions training, we wanted to work on 2 things.  Finances and health.  We need to save up a lot of money for school, which means getting out of debt and starting a serious savings program.  But we weren't really sure where to start with the health.  Now that we KNOW, we will DO.  Along with the juice fast, we will be starting an exercise program of some kind.  EVERYONE will participate in that.  This is a family affair, with us as parents leading the way.  Please pray for us.  And let us know if you want to join us on this journey of health.

 This is Bill and I at our heaviest, on our 15th wedding anniversary cruise, February 2011.

Monday, May 23, 2011

Summer plans and beyond...

We just wanted to give a quick update, as far as summer plans for our whole family.  It's going to be a busy one.  But, that's what happens when you have lots of kids I guess:)

We are still raising support for Liam & Eli.   Ethan has all his money in already, and we thank all of you who have given.  There is still time to give for Liam & Eli's trip, but time is running short.  Please send it in as soon as possible.  Mostly though, please pray with us.  We have been reminded lately that God alone moves the hearts of people to give, and we as a family are striving to be in prayer more.

If you did NOT receive a support letter in the mail from the boys, and would like to still give, please make a cheque out to TMI, and send it to our home address.

6819 Jasmine Blvd.
Port Richey, FL  34668


The boys have gotten their boots and are busy breaking them in.  No blisters yet, but we're waiting.  We will soon be making trips to the local Goodwill to start getting old clothes and other items for their summer.  It's getting exciting around here.

On a different note, we have something else to share.  We are so excited to be sharing this with you today.  This news has been a long time in coming, and we know you will rejoice with us.

For many, many years, we have been working at paying off our debt, in order to be able to enter foreign missions full-time.  Well, in about 4-6 weeks, we will be debt-free!!  It is an incredible feeling, to be free from being a "slave to the lender." (Prov. 22:7)  Freedom to serve the Lord, freedom to give, freedom to love, and freedom to enter training with New Tribes Mission.

You read correctly.  We have been accepted to begin training with New Tribes Mission, and are making plans to that end.  We are set to enter training in August of 2012, and will spend this next year saving money for school, as well as many other things to do to prepare to leave for Canada.  We can hardly wait.  I'm sure that at times it will feel like this year will drag, but fly by at the same time.

Again, we are just asking for continued prayer for our family.  We know so many of you already have. For years.  We are so grateful.  We look forward to what God is going to do in and through our family this summer, and beyond.

Monday, March 21, 2011

Rejoice with those who rejoice....

Romans 12:15  Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.

About 8 weeks ago, I had the privilege of watching our friends Dave & Peggy welcome Joshua William into the world.  It is the 3rd time in the past 7 months that I have had this privilege.  After the birth, I had 2 friends write me to tell me that they were praying for me, as this was probably an emotional time for me.  And to some degree, they were right.

You see, 7 months ago, I too was pregnant, eagerly anticipating the birth of our child.  In 2006, we lost a daughter, and this was our first pregnancy since that loss. Bill and I, along with the children, were truly excited.    Before I even knew I was pregnant, healing was taking place in my heart; a heart that had continued to mourn the loss of SaraGrace.

Exactly a year ago, the kids and I traveled over to Merritt Island, Florida to visit with a former college roommate of mine, Heather.  She had traveled down from Virginia with her 4 kids for a week's vacation.  She came by herself (BRAVE woman), and so I spent quite a bit of time with her, helping her a little as her youngest was a 9-week old at that time.

I remember holding her baby, as she took care of her other 3.  I held that little one over and over again, just  staring at her.  I had held many other babies since having SaraGrace, but this time was different.  It's really hard to explain, but I literally felt my heart healing.  I cannot describe that feeling.  There are no words.

A couple of days into the visit, I was laying in bed awake one night, just praising God and thanking Him for this gift of healing.  And then I felt really brave.  I prayed, or rather asked, for the first time since losing SaraGrace,  something HUGE of the Lord.  I asked, that if it was HIS will, could He please give us another daughter.  It was barely a whisper on my lips, but I asked.  I have never felt "owed" by God since He took SaraGrace, yet it felt selfish to ask anyway.

Although I didn't know it, I was already pregnant when I prayed that prayer.  Amazing!  He answered before I even dared to ask.  But He gave us so much more than that.  He walked us through a trial that was even more difficult than losing SaraGrace.  He gave us a daughter to hold for about 3 hours, and then He took her home to be with Him.  I remember holding her, and just feeling overwhelmed.  Overwhelmed that He gave us a daughter, overwhelmed that I knew she would die, overwhelmed at my love for Bill, overwhelmed that we were once again losing a daughter.

Before we knew we had a girl, I had already chosen her name.  Elliana jumped out at me not only because of its beauty, but because of its meaning, "the Lord has answered".  After losing her, we finished her name with Hope, ELLIANA HOPE.  The Lord answered with hope.  Not at all in the way we thought, yet in the way that brought Him the most glory. 

Our hope lies not in our children, or even the promise of children.  Even though God had promised Abraham a son, He says to him, "Do not be afraid, Abram. I am your shield, your exceedingly great reward."  (Gen. 15:1)  Did you catch that?  Isaac was not the reward, the LORD Himself was.

And so it is with us.  The God of the universe remains our reward.  I don't have the space here to write all the things that God tells us He is for us.  He's our Provider, Rock, Fortress, Deliverer, Shield, Horn of my Salvation; the list goes on and on.

I feel like I've rambled here, but I'm really writing to myself.  Reminding myself that God ALONE is my hope.  Even though I've walked through the valley of the shadow of death, He was with me as He promised.  That is tremendous hope for those whom He has saved.  My prayer for those who do not know Jesus as their Saviour, is that He would open their eyes to the reality that He alone is the Hope for their future as well.

Friday, March 18, 2011

Still Waiting...

PS. 46:10 "Cease striving and know that I am God.  I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth." (NASB)

This verse has been one of Bill's favorites for as long as I have known him.  It probably became a life verse as he was waiting for me to come to my senses and realize that I was to be his wife:)  But as we have journeyed together these past 15 years, it has become OURS.

We have made many plans throughout the years, and like the Big Daddy Weave song says, "All my great ideas, I've regretted most of them."  But, that is all part of the process of growing, AND growing UP!!

We have completed and sent in our application to New Tribes Mission (NTM).  We have heard back that we are once again, officially accepted to begin our training with them.  Yet, there is more waiting to be done.  My brother, who works with NTM at the Canada base where we hope to be headed,  had said the training center was already full for the fall.  Then we heard that some had dropped out and there was space.  But we have not heard officially from the Durham, Ontario campus yet, if there is room for us. 

Wouldn't that be just like God?  We are ready to go this year, and He says wait one more year?  Like I said earlier, we don't know which way for certain.  But when we do know, we will let YOU know.  Rejoice with us that we are ready to go.  Pray for us as we wait.  Waiting can be hard.  But this time, we wait with peace.